A person thinks about many things, but extremely rarely – about his own thinking, which affects everything: actions, self-esteem, decision-making speed, stress and happiness level. Therefore, your thinking habits completely and completely form the quality of life.
Here are five truths that everyone must realize.
We think almost all the time
Children are great observers. Most of the time their attention is taken by what they see and hear. They certainly know how to think, but their sensors are aimed primarily at the outside world.
For an adult person, it is common to get lost in thoughts so as not to notice everything that is happening around. We are characterized by the state of the autopilot. Then as a child you do not get caught in the fact that he is completely absorbed in his thoughts.
By the time we reach adulthood, our attention is almost entirely drawn to the inner world. Even when busy with business, the brain processes analysis, interpretation, prediction and judgment. There is no clear answer, it’s good or bad. Thinking is an instrument. Everyone uses it as they want. And yet it is important to switch your attention from the inner world to the outside world. This not only increases the skills of observation and awareness, but also relieves stress and negative emotions.
Imagine tourists who navigate the terrain on the map. They can get to a specific point, but they still look at the world through the prism of the map. Most people live this way – create their own picture of the world and believe in it. If you are a creative person, it can be useful. But still it is necessary to observe the world impartially in order to understand more about it. Find the balance.
Most of our thoughts lead nowhere
This is a tragedy of well-read people. They know a lot, they can talk about everything, but reflections do not lead them to actions and decisions.
Behind one thought follows another, followed by the third. Somewhere the train stops here. Ideally, each chain of thoughts should lead to a certain result:
To the solution
Make it a habit: always ask yourself what you want to achieve with meditation. At least you will begin to pay attention to what you think about.
Reflections are addictive
Surprisingly, our brains are glad of any opportunity to think about anything. The quality of reflection for him is unimportant, the main thing is the quantity and constancy.
We think that it is useful to think, but in fact, the benefit is manifested when we do it consciously and bring the chain of thought to its logical conclusion. Mental work requires a huge amount of energy. And if thoughts are unproductive, they are harmful.
It is important to think only when it makes sense, not always. Practice meditation, watch your thoughts and stop them. For a day like “moments without thoughts” should be several. So you avoid the habit of thinking constantly. But learn to think when it really is necessary.
We often confuse our thoughts with the subject of our thoughts
We are so absorbed in our thoughts that we barely have time to stay in the present. We think about past relationships, about work, about the future and at the same time forget what is happening now.
When you think about things that are frustrating, you are actually going through a reaction to your thoughts, not the topic you are thinking about. For example, these are not past unpleasant events that cause you irritation, but thoughts that are born in the present tense. Now there is no yesterday’s problem, it is only in your head, and even then because you are thinking about it. There is an idea about the problem, there is also a negative reaction to it.
We constantly deceive our bodies. Think about a lemon and it causes a saliva secretion, we tell ourselves that we are sure and this magically works also. Therefore, if you can not sleep while thinking about the problems of the world, it is not they that prevent you from falling asleep, but the thought that is born here and now. Insomnia is only a reaction to thought.
We can train ourselves to think less
Thoughts are productive and unproductive. So everything is simple: increase the number of the first and reduce – the second. Also leave time for not to think about anything and reboot.
Teach yourself periodically to concentrate on the present moment – sounds, smells, sensations, vision and taste. Literally decide for yourself when you think, and when – to relax from your thoughts.
As often as possible, ask yourself:
What am I doing now?
What am I thinking now?
Are these thoughts productive?
Thoughts must be realized so that we learn how to direct them and not let them get out of control.